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When you’ve been harmed by an intimate partner, you want them to be accountable for their behavior. You may spend a lot of time asking...

My last post, Domestic Terrorism, recognized the similarity between prisoner of war brainwashing and intimate partner psychological...

If you’ve had an intimate partner hurt you emotionally, physically, or sexually, you may not have thought of it as terrorism. But I bet...

“It’s unfortunate that we all have lived with abuse and that our society tolerates it. I would like to wish the pain away . . . but I...

Domestic abuse is more than a personal problem - it's a societal problem. Any abusive relationship has intensely personal effects, and...

Abuse is often invisible to outsiders; those who are aggressive may look like upstanding community members outside the family. Confiding...

I'm back! It's been a long time since I've blogged because I took time off to complete a book on controlling relationships. My tentative...

"A man should never be ashamed to own that he has been in the wrong, which is but saying in other words that he is wiser today than he...

Poise is a state of balance. We can see this physically when we view poised people moving with grace and agility. If thrown off balance,...

I've been spending a lot of time with my 13 month old grandson lately. What a joy! Being with children can be a good way to slow you down...

Is she a bitch or a leader? Is he a wuss or a sensitive man? Both these questions help us become more aware of underlying biases and...

Controlling behavior is the systematic domination and oppression by one person in a way that makes it clear that another person(s)  is...

It is often an irony that we fear what we also want. We may want success in some particular way, but we are terrified of achieving it...

There are two kinds of fear . One is the realistic fear that we experience when we're in danger. This is rational and self-preservative...

My neighborhood came through a line of storms with much loss of trees. When I walked around, I was moved by the giant root systems that...

We all have times of crisis in our lives. I like to remind myself as well as others that the symbol for "crisis" also means "opportunity"...

We are constantly making meaning of our world through our thoughts.  All thoughts are neither true nor untrue, they simply are.  ...

Birthing is for everyone ! If you're male, I hope you don't stop reading. The metaphor of giving birth is an apt one. Manifesting what...

That is the question - isn't it? Too often we don't bring our attention to the perspectives and attitudes we bring to our interactions....

"Follow Your Bliss."   Joseph Campbell I've always loved this quote from the first time I heard it. That happened during a Bill Moyers ...