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Find Your Voice’s mission is to provide therapy resources for healing and for leaving relationships that are abusive when necessary. I invited Dawn Lanaville to be my guest co-blogger because of her expertise with forensics and family courts. She speaks about shifting the focus to perpetrators and providing answers to an survivors’ oft-asked question, “Why do they hurt us?” Lanaville is a clinical/forensic psychologist who primarily works in family courts in Intimate Partner

Healing from abuse by a partner involves ending the silence about it by taking back or owning your story—unhampered by an abusive partner’s control and beliefs. In short, this means you stop believing what your partner’s behavior convinced you to believe.  Owning your story is a process of: Recognizing abusive behavior patterns and how they affect you Releasing responsibility for how you were treated Addressing injuries to your self-esteem Rebuilding trust in yourself   Seein

Couples in an abusive relationship often seek therapy for other issues and fail to mention abuse. A few of the reasons they don’t...

Couples therapy is not appropriate when one partner abuses the other. This general rule applies until the abuser holds themselves...